BnB: What a woman wants, what a woman needs

BnB BBlogo2There is a reason I didn’t stop watching soaps after the 1970s.  That reason is that I expected my soaps, along with my life, to change and reflect my reality (to some degree. I can suspend disbelief on the rest of it).  I expected my soaps to show women who were more empowered, whose lives reflected the mass movement into the workforce, a move in which women became doctors, not just nurses, one where women became police officers, not just crossing guards and “meter maids”, one where courtroom sharks ripped competitors new wounds in the boardroom and ripped criminals new wounds in the courtroom and they did it in heels and with attitude.  By and large, that’s pretty much what happened.

I told you that to say this: I don’t hate Brooke Logan, the Golden One.  Anyone who has read this blog for some time knows that Brooke has always been a flawed but lovable character, in my book.  I’m just tired of what’s going on with her.  I can only suspend disbelief to the point that it doesn’t break my connection with reality – and cheering her on in this farce breaks my connection with reality.  Soaps can be fun, over-the-top camp, and can stretch credulity to the point of hilarity.  What soaps can’t do is ask me to set aside my core character to cheer on behavior that is so absurd or offensive that it makes me question my own reasons for having chosen daytime as my primary form of entertainment — although, seriously, Netflix is killing me. I may have to give it or daytime up, soon.  I’m torn between these two lovers.

Posted below are the things I hope the Bold and The Beautiful writers will convey soon.  Yes, the same writers who have fired on all cylinders with Hope and Wyatt (#HOTT) , who are pitch perfect with Katie and Ridge (#KaRi) and who almost make me believe that Bill can be tamed by Quinn (#QUILL).  Quinn may be the only woman who can get Bill to wear his pants on his hips instead of wearing them as he usually does – at his ankles, chasing whatever will let him catch it:

BnB Brooke and Katie1- Women don’t want to be perceived as “nags” and “bitter” for expecting their husbands to be men and put their families before their penchant for cheating (cheating death in daredevil events or cheating with women who are all too willing).

It’s so utterly ridiculous to hear the excuse that Katie knew who Bill was when she married him.  It’s also misogynistic.

Here’s a tip:  Bill also knew who Katie was when he married her, too.  Why is it her obligation to accept his cheating, drinking and driving, and other Peter Pan behavior?  Why is he not obligated to be a better man for his wife and child?  Why does he owe Katie nothing, especially after the risk to her health over his near affair with Steffy and giving birth to his child?  Why is she nothing more to him than the mother he never had?  The only women who would accept the garbage Bill spews are women without self-esteem.  Katie should not be punished for having dignity and strength and the courage of her convictions.

2 – It is NOT ok for a mistress to send an unwilling husband home to his wife.  It is even LESS ok for her to take him back.  Why should Katie thank her sister for trying to send Bill home?  Brooke has already done this with Deacon and Bridget and again with Nick and Bridget.  Look at how well that turned out!  Bill acts as if he’s the first child being told he has to leave a party.  He goes, but he pouts, cries about having to leave, and treats home like a busted old tent in someone else’s backyard.

How could Katie not want a piece of that, amIright?  That’s right, right? BULL.  She should be rejecting his sorry skin every time he comes to her.  Is she bitter?  Yes.  Should she be bitter? Yes, but not about losing PennyBill.  That was a gift from the gods.  She should be mad for allowing herself to be tied to that loser in the first place.  That aging lothario, groomed to within an inch of his bullying controlling ways, SHOULD be someone else’s problem.  Katie should re-examine what made her attracted to him, swear not to do it again, and choose the bright future ahead of her.

3 – All adults should know that they have passed the stage of egocentrism in early childhood.  Egocentrism is not being able to take another person’s perspective.  It’s not cute to watch Brooke bug Katie about her wedding or to ask Katie to be a part of her happiness. You don’t get to bed your sister’s husband, carry her husband’s child, tell the world that despite the pain you’ve caused her that you’re going to live with and marry that man.  You certainly don’t expect your sister to be happy for you, and for herself, when you dump her husband for the man you REALLY wanted.  Love and weddings brings families together and heals wounds?  Shouldn’t Katie’s wedding have done that too?  Shouldn’t it have made the sisters so close that a betrayal of that magnitude was unthinkable?  As sick as I am of Brooke apologizing, I’m even more sick of her solution to making things right include having Katie watch HER be happy.

BnB PreWedding PlanningIt’s shallow and beneath everyone involved in this storyline. Asking Katie to join her on her wedding day should have been accompanied with a speech that said, “I’ve blown your world to hell but I’ll help you by letting you sit back and see what it’s like to be in a happy marriage” (based on Brooke’s belief that her life with Ridge will be a good one, not necessarily based on the past).  It makes Brooke look as if she is incapable of caring for anyone other than herself.   In 70s pop self-help speak, it’s akin to saying, “If I’m ok, the world is ok, including you”.  Smarter and more compassionate people know better.  The writers should know that WE know better.  It was not a good step in repairing her relationship with her sister, if that’s what Brooke really wants.

At some point, I want self-realization from Brooke that she wants Bill back with Katie because it will ease her guilt, not because it would make her sister happy, or her sister’s life better in any real way.  That would be a good first step.  When has Brooke ever wanted a man who had to be forced to be with her?  Wasn’t that her rant against Taylor?  Taylor’s desire for a man was so strong that she didn’t care if he (Ridge) wanted to be with her or not – Taylor was willing to take Ridge any way she could have him and it never mattered to her what the circumstances and manipulations were. If it made Taylor a loser, why would Brooke want that for Katie?

Next step?  Brooke burns those papers with Katie present.  She has already allowed Katie to believe that she has destroyed them but her conversation with PennyBill makes it seem likely she’s holding on to them. Why?  In case she decides to betray her sister, again?  What earthly reason would Brooke have for not destroying those papers?  Holding on to them makes Brooke’s motives and claims of love for her sister a little suspect.  The speech that needs to go along with the paper burning session is that Brooke openly states, without pointing a finger at Katie, that she knows that she’s altered the fate of Katie’s life and that of Will’s with her actions – helping Bill destroy their family.  She won’t let anyone else destroy Katie and any happiness she is building toward in the future.

Last, Brooke needs to be ALONE for a fair amount of time.  She needs to grow up and figure out what she wants to be other than some man’s significant other.  What I want is for Brooke to become the matriarch that Stephanie never could have become because Stephanie was too filled with rage and hatred to be a true matriarch.  I want Brooke to be vibrant, in love the RIGHT way – one day in the future, and to be worthy of having her own picture posted above a mantel – without it being a joke.  Katherine Kelly Lang’s Brooke has been the emotional center of this show for so long that it pains me to see Brooke lose her way.  KKL has salvaged Brooke’s before, pulled her from the brink.  I have little hope she is able to do it, again.  I don’t need my soap characters to be perfectly moral, but there is a bright line they shouldn’t cross, if the writers’ intent is to get us to root for them and see them as heroines and heroes and not villains.

BnB Hott1This show is so pitch perfect in other ways.  #HOTT brings the young passion, #KaRi brings the promise of new love,  Eric, Hope, and Rick are moving toward creating a strong future for Forrester Creations, – so it is hard for me to understand the conflict including Brooke and Bill.  They are, as far as I’m concerned, the show’s achilles’ heel.  #Brill brings lust and vanity masquerading as love and nothing more.  The longer the audience is wrapped in this pathetic past, and the longer Katie is dragged down by it, the greater the potential for the pitch perfect nature of this show to become pitch black – as in audience done, tuned out, ratings dropped.

Please, put a 2014 spin on this show, let us just move forward!

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So when I ‘m wrong, I’m wrong

BnB KaRi Valentine4#boldandbeautiful writers have been throwing curve balls, daily, and I am loving it!  For the first time in many years, I just don’t have anything bad to say about the show.  Not only that?  I can’t wait for each new episode.  Yes, yes, I was wrong.  Not only did Liam NOT try to shame Katie, he stood by her and encouraged her to find her happiness wherever she could.  He reminded her that her behavior with Ridge is no way similar to that of Brooke and his father, Bill.

Several blogs ago I lamented the lack of insight soap characters have regarding their own behavior.  Katie has to be the most introspective character the show has offered in ages!  She realizes that it’s possible that her feelings for Ridge, and his for her, are built on a fear of being alone, wishing to be with someone you can trust, and that crossing the line based on the fantasy of having a happy life isn’t worth the pain and misery she could potentially subject others to.  Say what, now?  Imagine that!  Rather than an instant love story, we have a woman who is making GOOD choices for herself and others.  There is Liam, standing at her side trying to make sure that his former stepmother/friend doesn’t allow herself to lose out on life.  When I’m wrong, I’m wrong!  Liam does have a soul.

Bravo, Liam and Bravo Katie!  If/When Ridge and Katie are finally together, and I believe they will be, it will not be because they cared only for themselves – everyone else be damned.  They will go into a relationship with clean hands!

Carter / Maya / Oliver

My guess is that if you took a black light to the Forrester Steam room, you wouldn’t even touch the handle!  The only safe spaces are the spaces OUTSIDE that spa.  That  steam room is busier than a brothel during convention season!  What was once the workplace playground for Brooke and Ridge, is now used by almost every FC employee and their mother… literally!  Is the steam room used on a schedule?  Can you bolt it from the inside to keep others out?  How do FC employees stop from running into each other?  How is it possible that there has not been a storyline about some random FC employee secretly taping and selling at least one workplace romp as a sex tape? I am amazed.

BnB LiamThat said, the closest Carter and Maya have come to being a real couple was in the steam room!  I’m already feeling sorry for Carter.  He has always seemed like the “Rick Rebound” to me, even more so after Maya made plans to tell Rick how she felt about him – until she found out he proposed to Caroline.  Now she’s daydreaming about Oliver.  WHAT & THE?  What does a good man have to do to get a little respect? Carter has been an absolute gentleman in his treatment of Maya.  Has she not been paying attention to the sordid affairs of those around her?  She has landed one damned fine man and unless the writers have a few more curve balls to throw, she’s going to lose him.  I don’t understand how Maya could find herself torn between Carter and Oliver.  They have been friends, yes, worked in the studio together, yes, but Oliver and Maya have lived lives so separate that I’m surprised they even consider themselves workplace friends.

Ah, but the heart wants what it wants.  Both Carter and Oliver are good men, so Maya is potentially on the winning side no matter which she chooses, I guess.

I’m a “wait and see” on this one.  Maybe KM’s Maya can convince me that she and ZC’s Oliver are star-crossed lovers who have been hiding in plain sight from one another until now, but how sad will that be?  Carter will have given his all and only to be dumped by a woman he was prepared to worship.

Life in the BnB Big City is hard!

May-December

I’m telling you, dear readers, I smell a May-December romance brewing.  I think it could be any of the following:

Liam and Quinn

Liam and Katie (once Katie is happy with Ridge)

Eric and Quinn (and I see this as the least likely)

The BnB: The two things I feared most?

BnB KaRi Smiling2

have happened:

The first?  I’m beginning to enjoy Katie and Ridge (KaRi).   There are seven kinds of wrong in this storyline, with another seven just waiting  in the wings to unleash fresh hell and I don’t care.  I guess it helps that “Ridge” feels like a different character – with Ronn Moss vacating the role and Thorsten Kaye taking over.  It probably also helps that  TK’s Ridge is so distant and disconnected from Brooke, that they may as well be strangers.

The KaRi shared moments are just as powerful as anything we’ve seen from any other couple.  In the case of Brooke and Bill , where lust and love are the same, KaRi’s moments are even more powerful!   Ridge in the park with Katie, as their sons (who are cousins) played together like siblings gave me warm fuzzies.  While going toe-to-toe, Ridge teases Katie that if she played soccer in high school then the only thing she played was the bench, because she was lousy at it.  Cute! Katie is smiling, and is genuinely happy — something we, the audience, haven’t seen since before Bill became obsessed with Steffy and put his wife through hell in pursuit of her. I’m officially a puddle of emotion!  Between Katie and Ridge and Hope and Wyatt, old school romance is making a comeback and it is the sexiest thing happening on this show in years!!

I am actually happy for Katie. She suffered so much being the only emotionally mature adult in her marriage.  I was exhausted listening to Katie explain the basic rules of civility and adulthood to her childlike husband.  For damned sure, as much as I knew I didn’t want Katie with Bill ever again, I was certain that I didn’t want Katie and Ridge together, either, until recently.   I’m now tuning in, in part, to see what comes next for KaRi.  I’m actually excited to wait for the small things, like KaRi brushing hands for the first time!  Every first time for them will be special, I hope.

The day-one Brooke and Ridge fan in me mourns the loss of the magic the couple once shared.  The newly formed KaRi fan is ready to move on, and can leave the past behind with no regrets (other than still missing Ronn Moss – how delicious it would have been to have RM and TK on screen together as Logan husbands).

Hope Walking AwayThe second “OH NO” moment?  I actually felt sorry for Liam, today.  Sorry enough to want him with Hope?  No,  but there was an ounce of sympathy for him (an ounce more than I realized I had).   I do wish soap characters were allowed to have more insight into the hell they put others through and how it eventually boomerangs back to them.  Poor Hope had been in Liam’s shoes so many times before.  She couldn’t understand how he could feel such a closeness with Steffy after everything she’d done to him, to them.

Wouldn’t it have been nice for Liam to realize how awful it was that he dismissed Hope’s fears and pain in the past?  Hope would tell him she’s hurting, he would tell her to get over it, it was all in her head.  If his cheap relationship with Steffy were the only issue, he might have had a chance, but Steffy was preceded by the faux pregnancy and continued sexual relationship with Amber,  add it together and you get the point.  All of his arrogance and mistreatment of Hope was now costing him his chance at happiness.  Not to be a vengeful viewer, but hey, I”m the type of woman who needs to hear him say it out loud and TO Hope: He threw Hope away and thought she would always be there to take him back.  He was wrong.

The  only moment approximating self-realization was Liam’s pure fear response when Caroline told him that Hope would forgive Wyatt, because he adored her and only her. The implication was that it was something Liam failed to do.  D’OH!  Scott Clifton was masterful in that moment.  Sadly, even then Liam was dismissive of Hope’s need to be loved, her desire to be cared for by a man who loved her with the same passion she’d shown him.  He couldn’t believe it was possible that Hope’s feelings for Wyatt were as deep as her feelings for him had once been.  She’d forgiven Liam a thousand times, but how could she forgive Wyatt even once?

The speculative future of the BnB

Do you think that Katie and Hope should get together and celebrate being free of the Spencer men who repeatedly devastated them because they preferred women who allowed them to be the arrogant jerks they were born to be?  I want to see both celebrating their new lives.

At this point, Bill and Liam are paying for their sexual and emotional betrayals so what’s next for them?  Bill?  Torn between Katie and Brooke?  I doubt Bill will want anyone else playing with his toys – especially Ridge.  The quadrangle is ON!  I will be sad for Brooke if she ends up with Bill, but as long as it leaves KaRi free to be together, I can fast forward Brooke and Bill and not mind adding minutes back to the clock each day!

I see one of three things coming for Himself, Liam Spencer:

BnB Quinn and Wyatt

— Liam moves on with Ali, eventually impregnates her (because it’s what he does as Bill’s clone) and Hope and Wyatt move on peacefully. Unless Ali is soon shedding her “Mary Sunshine” persona, I just don’t see this one happening.

— Quinn hires someone to hurt Liam or set him up for something he hasn’t done, and it gains him the sympathy vote from Hope and puts him back in play in Hope and Wyatt’s relationship.  Boooo! Hiss!  Will Quinn become Wyatt’s undoing?  Wyatt is genuine in his desire to be with Hope the right way.  Quinn has become as fixated on undoing Liam as she is on loving Wyatt.  That’s never good.

— The option that I think is most likely, given the fact that this is the BnB?  Quinn and Liam’s passionate disgust for one another is not completely wasted, it is transformed. Dropping the disgust,  the two begin a torrid affair, one that horrifies Wyatt and Hope, leaves Bill speechless but uncaring since he’ll be chasing Brooke and Katie-  and this pairing becomes one of daytime’s weirdest / hottest relationships. Quiam?  Linn?

Yeah.

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