BnB: What a woman wants, what a woman needs

BnB BBlogo2There is a reason I didn’t stop watching soaps after the 1970s.  That reason is that I expected my soaps, along with my life, to change and reflect my reality (to some degree. I can suspend disbelief on the rest of it).  I expected my soaps to show women who were more empowered, whose lives reflected the mass movement into the workforce, a move in which women became doctors, not just nurses, one where women became police officers, not just crossing guards and “meter maids”, one where courtroom sharks ripped competitors new wounds in the boardroom and ripped criminals new wounds in the courtroom and they did it in heels and with attitude.  By and large, that’s pretty much what happened.

I told you that to say this: I don’t hate Brooke Logan, the Golden One.  Anyone who has read this blog for some time knows that Brooke has always been a flawed but lovable character, in my book.  I’m just tired of what’s going on with her.  I can only suspend disbelief to the point that it doesn’t break my connection with reality – and cheering her on in this farce breaks my connection with reality.  Soaps can be fun, over-the-top camp, and can stretch credulity to the point of hilarity.  What soaps can’t do is ask me to set aside my core character to cheer on behavior that is so absurd or offensive that it makes me question my own reasons for having chosen daytime as my primary form of entertainment — although, seriously, Netflix is killing me. I may have to give it or daytime up, soon.  I’m torn between these two lovers.

Posted below are the things I hope the Bold and The Beautiful writers will convey soon.  Yes, the same writers who have fired on all cylinders with Hope and Wyatt (#HOTT) , who are pitch perfect with Katie and Ridge (#KaRi) and who almost make me believe that Bill can be tamed by Quinn (#QUILL).  Quinn may be the only woman who can get Bill to wear his pants on his hips instead of wearing them as he usually does – at his ankles, chasing whatever will let him catch it:

BnB Brooke and Katie1- Women don’t want to be perceived as “nags” and “bitter” for expecting their husbands to be men and put their families before their penchant for cheating (cheating death in daredevil events or cheating with women who are all too willing).

It’s so utterly ridiculous to hear the excuse that Katie knew who Bill was when she married him.  It’s also misogynistic.

Here’s a tip:  Bill also knew who Katie was when he married her, too.  Why is it her obligation to accept his cheating, drinking and driving, and other Peter Pan behavior?  Why is he not obligated to be a better man for his wife and child?  Why does he owe Katie nothing, especially after the risk to her health over his near affair with Steffy and giving birth to his child?  Why is she nothing more to him than the mother he never had?  The only women who would accept the garbage Bill spews are women without self-esteem.  Katie should not be punished for having dignity and strength and the courage of her convictions.

2 – It is NOT ok for a mistress to send an unwilling husband home to his wife.  It is even LESS ok for her to take him back.  Why should Katie thank her sister for trying to send Bill home?  Brooke has already done this with Deacon and Bridget and again with Nick and Bridget.  Look at how well that turned out!  Bill acts as if he’s the first child being told he has to leave a party.  He goes, but he pouts, cries about having to leave, and treats home like a busted old tent in someone else’s backyard.

How could Katie not want a piece of that, amIright?  That’s right, right? BULL.  She should be rejecting his sorry skin every time he comes to her.  Is she bitter?  Yes.  Should she be bitter? Yes, but not about losing PennyBill.  That was a gift from the gods.  She should be mad for allowing herself to be tied to that loser in the first place.  That aging lothario, groomed to within an inch of his bullying controlling ways, SHOULD be someone else’s problem.  Katie should re-examine what made her attracted to him, swear not to do it again, and choose the bright future ahead of her.

3 – All adults should know that they have passed the stage of egocentrism in early childhood.  Egocentrism is not being able to take another person’s perspective.  It’s not cute to watch Brooke bug Katie about her wedding or to ask Katie to be a part of her happiness. You don’t get to bed your sister’s husband, carry her husband’s child, tell the world that despite the pain you’ve caused her that you’re going to live with and marry that man.  You certainly don’t expect your sister to be happy for you, and for herself, when you dump her husband for the man you REALLY wanted.  Love and weddings brings families together and heals wounds?  Shouldn’t Katie’s wedding have done that too?  Shouldn’t it have made the sisters so close that a betrayal of that magnitude was unthinkable?  As sick as I am of Brooke apologizing, I’m even more sick of her solution to making things right include having Katie watch HER be happy.

BnB PreWedding PlanningIt’s shallow and beneath everyone involved in this storyline. Asking Katie to join her on her wedding day should have been accompanied with a speech that said, “I’ve blown your world to hell but I’ll help you by letting you sit back and see what it’s like to be in a happy marriage” (based on Brooke’s belief that her life with Ridge will be a good one, not necessarily based on the past).  It makes Brooke look as if she is incapable of caring for anyone other than herself.   In 70s pop self-help speak, it’s akin to saying, “If I’m ok, the world is ok, including you”.  Smarter and more compassionate people know better.  The writers should know that WE know better.  It was not a good step in repairing her relationship with her sister, if that’s what Brooke really wants.

At some point, I want self-realization from Brooke that she wants Bill back with Katie because it will ease her guilt, not because it would make her sister happy, or her sister’s life better in any real way.  That would be a good first step.  When has Brooke ever wanted a man who had to be forced to be with her?  Wasn’t that her rant against Taylor?  Taylor’s desire for a man was so strong that she didn’t care if he (Ridge) wanted to be with her or not – Taylor was willing to take Ridge any way she could have him and it never mattered to her what the circumstances and manipulations were. If it made Taylor a loser, why would Brooke want that for Katie?

Next step?  Brooke burns those papers with Katie present.  She has already allowed Katie to believe that she has destroyed them but her conversation with PennyBill makes it seem likely she’s holding on to them. Why?  In case she decides to betray her sister, again?  What earthly reason would Brooke have for not destroying those papers?  Holding on to them makes Brooke’s motives and claims of love for her sister a little suspect.  The speech that needs to go along with the paper burning session is that Brooke openly states, without pointing a finger at Katie, that she knows that she’s altered the fate of Katie’s life and that of Will’s with her actions – helping Bill destroy their family.  She won’t let anyone else destroy Katie and any happiness she is building toward in the future.

Last, Brooke needs to be ALONE for a fair amount of time.  She needs to grow up and figure out what she wants to be other than some man’s significant other.  What I want is for Brooke to become the matriarch that Stephanie never could have become because Stephanie was too filled with rage and hatred to be a true matriarch.  I want Brooke to be vibrant, in love the RIGHT way – one day in the future, and to be worthy of having her own picture posted above a mantel – without it being a joke.  Katherine Kelly Lang’s Brooke has been the emotional center of this show for so long that it pains me to see Brooke lose her way.  KKL has salvaged Brooke’s before, pulled her from the brink.  I have little hope she is able to do it, again.  I don’t need my soap characters to be perfectly moral, but there is a bright line they shouldn’t cross, if the writers’ intent is to get us to root for them and see them as heroines and heroes and not villains.

BnB Hott1This show is so pitch perfect in other ways.  #HOTT brings the young passion, #KaRi brings the promise of new love,  Eric, Hope, and Rick are moving toward creating a strong future for Forrester Creations, – so it is hard for me to understand the conflict including Brooke and Bill.  They are, as far as I’m concerned, the show’s achilles’ heel.  #Brill brings lust and vanity masquerading as love and nothing more.  The longer the audience is wrapped in this pathetic past, and the longer Katie is dragged down by it, the greater the potential for the pitch perfect nature of this show to become pitch black – as in audience done, tuned out, ratings dropped.

Please, put a 2014 spin on this show, let us just move forward!

P.S. If you’re looking for a place to play, the The G. GALLERY (companion message board for this blog) will be open, soon.  There is a HOTT Safe Haven, as well as a BRIDGE safe haven, and all daytime, primetime, British Soap fans, Sci Fi fans,… oh hell, ALL are welcome!

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