BnB: Don Diamont… sorry dude, you deserve better

Don Diamont is as hot as SIN!  In case you haven’t seen him since leaving the role of Brad Carlton on The Young and The Restless, he’s sporting a new look so sexy that makes me think very bad thoughts… and feeling absolutely no shame for it!   The man is just gorgeous.  Obviously his incredibly hot super-hotness carries over to the character he’s currently playing on The Bold and The Beautiful:  Bill Spencer Jr.  As we’ve been reminded several times through BSJ’s dialogue, his friends refer to him as “Dollar Bill”.

Dollar Bill would remain ‘hot’ if it weren’t for the fact that my television speakers work just fine.  Without sound?  Dollar Bill is  the object of my lust.  With Sound?  I just want to see someone, ANYONE, slap him silly.  He’s beginning to make my skin crawl.  Think part adolescent male, part sexual predator;  the maturity of the former, the EFFIN’ ICK of the latter.

I’m not impressed with men who treat women as the ‘marrying’ kind vs the ‘banging’ kind.  I’m not impressed with men who think that it’s ok to refer to women as ‘whores’ or ‘sluts’ and to offer them money to sleep with you – even if the ‘slut’ you’re talking to doesn’t sleep around (or has at the very LEAST she’s slept around far less than you have).  Most of us know that that sort of language comes from weak, controlling, and insecure men.  So why create a character who thrives on demeaning, sexualizing, and trivializing women!?!?!

Dollar Bill is at risk of becoming a caricature of a man.  He’s a man trapped in a time warp, three and a half decades too late for the kind of behavior he exhibits.  He’s one open shirt/hairy chest/excessive gold chain display from being a very VERY bad joke.  The only thing halfway saving him is DD’s ability to pull the character from the edge as much as possible.  The Young and Restless’ loss is potentially The Bold and The Beautiful’s gain –  it’s just a matter of how much longer the writers are going to make Dollar Bill unlikable.  At this point, I don’t hate the guy, but I do flash back to Steve Martin and Dan Akroyd as the ‘Czech Brothers’ when he’s on screen.

For as long as SNL lets this clip stay posted:

At some point, daytime writers are going to have to look around and realize that the male characters they’re writing just aren’t appealing to most women any more.   They’re not ‘cute’ when they flirt with every woman in your family.  They’re not ‘sexy’ when they blackmail you into sleeping with them.  They’re not ‘toe-curling’ when they admit they’ve only been using you for sex and to drive your family crazy.

It’s even WORSE when women are dumbed-down to defend their actions and to fight the world while protecting these guys.    I’d love to see Dollar Bill turned around and to have a strong woman come along and raise the standards for this guy – someone who wouldn’t  tolerate his bullcrap.   It would make me feel like less of a hypocrite to be disgusted by men like Bill in my real life, and to watch him demean women in HIS reel life.  Daytime is causing a lot of cognitive dissonance for me and viewers like me.  More of us are tuning out the ‘Dollar Bills’ and weak women of daytime.

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YnR: Chris Engen’s Public Statement…

You’ll find the statement originally posted:  CE’s Myspace Page

CHRIS ENGEN – STATEMENT TO THE PUBLIC

Good Day. This is the first time in my life that I address an audience so vast and varied. There are a number of heated topics that have become entwined with my recent decision to quit my job, and I feel there are a number of truths that deserve to be stated, a number of untruths that deserve to be rectified, and a few of my own ideas that, by way of circumstance, I am compelled to inject into the debate.  This is the only statement I intend to make regarding this subject. I would like first to apologize, as I feel I owe a great many of you at least that. I know that a choice like this appears weak and impulsive. Honestly, it was the last thing I ever thought I’d do – the absolute LAST thing I ever wanted.

The job has been a great challenge, and my hat is off to all my fellow actors who have mastered it so gracefully. I know a great many of you have endured far worse than what you perceive to have been my circumstance, but I do not believe that just because you have suffered a particular injustice, so too must everyone else in order to understand that injustice. I want to apologize to any of my fellow actors who I may have disappointed. I would also like to apologize to those of you who feel slighted by this choice, as I have been branded a “homophobe” by several members of the press. This is, of course, absurd and many of my dearest friends are homosexuals who would be more than happy to speak on my behalf. My decision had nothing to do with religion, or anything I learned at Bishop Montgomery High School. Bishop is a great institution of learning that encourages tolerance and acceptance of others. I do not ascribe to any one religious ideology but do value the truth that exists in them all. I think the unfortunate assumption that has been made is that Catholics are intolerant of homosexuals on the basis of their Catholicism. Intolerance of anything is a product of one’s underlying belief system as an experience of limitation. It is the line we intellectually draw within ourselves that prevents us from understanding those things we reject, because it defines the boundaries of who we are as individuals. We are what we are, but we are also NOT what we are not. Intolerance is a natural reaction that, I believe, we must understand in order to defeat. It is not a fire to be stomped out by an angry foot or extinguished by a inundating stream of media exposure. Homosexuality is a quality of beingness: one of many qualities that make up the rich diversity that humanity expresses.
True — I was not comfortable with many of the challenges they presented before me, but I put my head down and did my job. The fact that I had an opportunity as ostensibly attractive and lucrative as this, particularly in difficult economic times and with so many talented actors and industry professionals out of work was, of course, more than reason enough to be grateful. I considered it part of the challenge and within my job description to do the best with whatever storyline was being written for me, as I was very fortunate to be getting a storyline in the first place. I understand that the writers have a very difficult task. They accomplish more in a week than what other shows do in over a month. I never stormed off the set, nor have I stormed off any set in my 18 years of struggle as an artist. I felt generally unhappy about my contribution to the show, and had greater and greater difficulty making any sense of the challenges they were asking me to face. If that makes me a limited actor, then so be it. I was allowed ONE meeting with Maria Bell, and I called in sick ONCE in my 16 months on the show. In the end, I didn’t feel that decisions were being made in my best interests, personally or professionally.

I learned a great deal in my time there and I am eternally grateful for the challenges that enriched me as an artist and as a man. As a single father, with sole custody of a 10 year-old boy, this was neither a practical decision, nor was it an easy decision to make. I believe that as an actor, and as a human being, I deserve better than to be forced to do something that I don’t feel is right on many levels, and that should have nothing to do with the choices that other people make. My visage and my craft were being utilized to tell a story that I wasn’t inspired to tell. I have a great deal of respect for the show in general and all those hard-working people who make it possible, and it is out of respect for them and a sense of duty toward them that I asked to be removed from my duties. I know this doesn’t conform to contract stipulations and it is regrettable that my personal feelings came into conflict with that precedent, although I don’t think that would have ever been the case if what was being requested of me was not unprecedented. Ultimately, the producers were very understanding and amenable and I, in fact, worked until they told me they didn’t need me anymore. I am sure that more of my colleagues would speak on my behalf if they too weren’t afraid of the possible consequences, and I don’t blame them for that. It has been a difficult journey for me, and many others, on the road to understanding the nature of artistry and what it takes to succeed. Strength is measured by what we are willing to stand for, not by what we are willing to lie down and take. I want to thank everyone who has voiced such tremendous support and encouragement. Much love and gratitude to you all. God Bless. Namaste

Chris Engen


Discuss amongst yourselves!